Why I’m here…

I am highly sensitive, an INFJ and a lover, not a fighter, unless I’m called to fight for my ideals and save the world, of course! My dream is for everyone to find their niche. All humans have potential and are inherently good.

Although I’m not a psychologist, I love psychology and deal with people’s stories for a living. My job gets rough sometimes and I see a lot of hardship, pain and the darker side of humanity. This is a space for me to share my observations and let it all out.

I’ve often felt misunderstood in life and as though I was born with a different brain. This feeling was intensified by growing up with parents who didn’t understand me and could not teach me emotional and relationship skills because it had not been passed onto them. Now I’m on a journey to understand how I function and connect with other sensitive, creative souls.

I go to therapy once a week and feel really passionately about enlightening others on this process. I was in therapy with DS (Deep Soul) for 2.5 years before he closed his practice and emigrated. It took me a while to gather up the courage to jump back into therapy.

Now I am in therapy with HH (Heart Healer).

This blog is not meant to substitute advice from a trained professional. This space invites human connection and civility so please refrain from derogatory or harmful comments or conduct. Thanks for visiting my page 🙂


17 thoughts on “Why I’m here…

  1. Sandy Sue says:

    Thanks so much for visiting my site and choosing to follow along.

  2. Hi Jay, thanks for stopping by my blog and liking my post “Always Trying to Protect My Ego”. The header on your blog really touched me. Both me and my sister are infinitely more sensitive than our mother. Because we process and look at things differently than her, it’s led to a lot of misunderstandings and arguments. She has said to us before in the past that we are “too sensitive”. However I liked how you instead framed sensitive to be a positive meaning. Hope your day is going well, life is hard sometimes but you will make it through all right I think 🙂

    • Jay says:

      Thank you for sharing your experience here… Sounds like you had a very similar time with parental mis-fits! Deary me. Wouldn’t it be so much less complicated if we had parents who were in tune and on the same level? After all, they made us 😉

      I smiled when you spoke about being called “too sensitive”. That comment always raises my hackles because it’s the same as saying “you’re too you”. It’s an attack on our core being.

      I honestly thank the Lord (yes I am religious) that there has been a cultural revolution around sensitivity and introversion, led for the most part by Elaine Aron and Susan Cain. You should check out Cain’s TED talk, if you haven’t already. While you’re there, also look up Brene Brown’s two TED talks… It’s some pretty powerful stuff.

      It sounds like you’re already well on you journey to re-framing who you are, anxiety and all. Keep it up and hope to engage again soon 🙂

  3. Hi! I want to thank you for your support. I have nominated you for a “Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award!”😊


  4. I am an INFJ also! And have always hated when people tell me to develop a thicker skin and to smile more.

    • Jay says:

      Welcome! Yes, I’ve never really understood the “thicker skin” thing. I used to imagine turning into an alligator when people asked me to do that. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  5. Cnawan Fahey says:

    Haven’t read them yet, but just encountered the books on HSP ~ Highly Sensitive People by Elaine Aron (i think that’s the author’s name) – they have received good reviews and I plan to give them a try. I’m an INFP/J

    • Jay says:

      Thanks for your comment! Great to connect with fellow sensitive souls. Would love to hear what you think of Aron’s book when you get around to reading it.

  6. litebeing says:

    Hi Jay,
    Thank you for finding me and following me. I am doing the same in kind as I am enjoying your writing very much. I always appreciate spending time with other INFJs. We are indeed kindred spirits.


  7. drgeraldstein says:

    I like the way you reframed some aspects of your life and sensibilities. Thanks, as well, for following my blog.

  8. Hello! I nominated you for the Liebster award.

    This is an award for new bloggers with less than 200 followers.

    This a great way to do some networking. The Liebster award nominees are chosen by fellow bloggers. Each blogger that accepts chooses 11 other blogs to nominate, and so on, so it helps those of us with few followers get out there and be seen.

    If you choose to accept the nomination, there are a few things for you to complete and post on your site. Take a look at the requirements, you can see them at the link to my Liebster award post, then see what you think.

    After you select your nominees, feel free to cut and paste parts of this message in order to make your own version. That is what I did.

    You are not obligated to participate, but it would be very beneficial for you to do so.

    The details and questions are in my post at

    I was nominated by Lisasretro at lovemylifeanyway.
    You can find her post with her questions and answers at


  9. Thanks for following my blog! I’m an INFJ too, and love meeting fellow others — we’re only 1% of the population!! I am training to become a therapist, and my sensitivity has become very useful. But for many years, I struggled and felt like I could never be understood by anyone with any degree of depth. I’ve grown infinitely through psychoanalysis in the last several years. Your blog is deep and rich, and I look forward to reading more!

  10. Hi Jay! I am also a highly sensitive INFJ! It has such a tremendous impact on the way I go through the world, seemingly absorbing all kinds of energies, both positive and negative. Thanks for following my blog – I look forward to reading yours 🙂

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